I have custody of my five children, actually only 4 are left at home. Mother has tried repeatedly to cause problems between our 13 year old daughter and I trying to get her to live with her. She does not try to get the other three still at home to go. This daughter is very easily manipulated. I have full physical custody with mother seeing them every other weekend.
Mother seems to cause issues every time she comes around the kids and I. She causes scenes in my town where we live by calling the police on my unjustified, division of family services unjustified and continues to do so. I filed and ex parte and was awarded the protection order against her. She violated the protection order in April and has continued the case each month so far and is due in court again December 3. When she comes to ball games the kids have, she normally calls them all to sit with her and makes loud and really embarassing noises to all the kids when they play. Like last night at my daughters ball game she got to go in the last quarter for a few seconds. Mother decided to be errogant and say Woowhooo "name" got to go in the game, then the next time down the court throw it to "name" she is open when in reality she was being gaurded like a glove. This is not just normal cheering either it is specifically directed to the coaches and meant to cause embarassment to them but in reality does my children. I think on my parenting time my children should stay with me but be able to go see mom and say hi. Contrary to that, 3 stay with me and the one that mother is trying to get to live with her always goes to sit with mother. Last night it exculated to daughter sitting in moms car after other daughters game and would not get out. Mother smacks my van yelling at me while I am calling 911. She makes a big scene telling me I have no right to tell her to get out of the car it is her child too. We were all in my van ready to travel home after the game but waiting on last child to enter van. She would not get out and mother was not helping by telling her she did not have to listen. The principal came out and I explained it was my parenting time and daughter needs to come home. He told mother and mother started in yelling at him. This in the mean time again in my town in front of our peers and really embarassing all the children. Every one of them said I DON'T want to go to school tomorrow. So, is there anything I can do short of modification to keep her from interfering with my parenting time when they are with me? When they are with her I do not bother her or them, and only go to ball games to support them and normally I have to bring them because she will not go.
Thanks for any help,

I am pretty sure you can just call the cops and have her placed in the pokey. At 13 most states will listen to the child about where they want to live. So even tho it might be hard for you if your D13 REALLY wants to live with your NJ then there isn't much that you can do.

But her assualting your van while you have an active protection order out there just seems to me to be a violation lol. if SHE had an order against you and you walked up to her car and started smacking on it you would have shiney silver braclets before you could blink.

I have been told, my daughter would and ex would have to prove that I am not fit and life would be greener on the other side of the pasture with the cows. Because I do everything for my kids and they are in a good school district and her mom is living with her girl friend and they are bi sexual and daughter has walked in on them before. She is rebelling because I have rules, my oldest left for mom when she was 18 and soon found the real reason she wanted her there and quickly moved out on her own.

I am just tired of the issues she brings us. Why can she not just be a mom when it is her time and be a parent when it is my time instead of fight.

No doubt I hear ya. The problem is that many States will listen to the kid at 13. PA is that way or WAS when I was young.

It would almost be up to you to show how she is unfit, will lead your kids down the firey path to he double hockey sticks, and she is teaching them to be thieves. In order for the judge to deny her living with your ex.

Her walking in on the twon of them going at it is really a minor thing unless it happens EVERY day. It could happen to you some day, It HAS happened to me but I just said "Mom, leave the clothes on the dressor I will put them away later"

A kid at age 13 can request where to live, but in most places it is but one circ that is a factor, and the change can be denied if it as against the kid's interests. If you really are super dad like you mention, then don't stop fighting for what's right.

In this case, I think the powerful weapon you ahve is the PO. Doesn't she have to stay at least 100 feet or some significant distance away at any event? There have to be no approach clauses in there. If she "accidently sees you" at an event, and a PO is in place, it is on her to turn around & leave, or to be facing arrest.

You can get the police to remove her any time if you need to.

Has she crossed reasonableness boundaries enough that it's time to have her < edited > hauled out of the school gym?

Yes I am glad to say, after her tirade the other night, the school called me and stated they wanted her cell number. I gave it to them and he said he wanted to call to discuss lats nights issues. He said that it was completely rediculous to set there honking the horn like she did and keep my daughter during my parenting time. He stated she should have sat in her care since there was no violance being shown and waited until the police arrived to sort out the issues. I said exactly what I thought. I apologized for what happened. He called her then called me back and said that worked well. He said he started talking to her about last night and stated if this happened again she would not be allowed on school property. Then he told me during the conversation she hung up on him. (No way I told him I figured she would) So he stated he would like me to contact her to defuse the situation. I said you can't defuse this she just has issues. He stated he would have an officer at this game. This again was really embarrassing due to the fact that I knew he was there because of my family. However the night went well and she did not show. The principal did ask if I knew if she was coming. I stated I really doubted it.

I thought my NJ was nutty about interfering, but not as nutty as your NJ. Mine is more subtle. She does a lot of the embarrassing stuff, but she doesn't take it to a violent level.

The issues you and I face, however, is D13/D14 turning into young ladies and starting make their own decisions.

On this I can only make my home an nice, safe, stress-less environment for D14. If she wanted to stay at NJ's more and not stay overnight with me, and it became a fight, then I'd probably lose that time with her.

I figure you and I have 3-4 maybe 5 good years before our daughters are making their own adult decisions... and we'll do the best we can for them.

... so I don't know which is worse. The overt craziness of your NJ, or the subversive craziness of mine.

Sounds like you may wish to pursue for additional enforcement of the PO using the school's documentation & witnesses to the incident in your favor.

If hse's up on one violation, get her on some more. Increase her risks. Add to her list.

And I'm certain that the school has policy on attendees to school functions to be respectful of other participants and attendees enjoyment of the activity and to not be disruptive.

Complain to an usher or school official about the loud and obnoxious behavior of one of the attendees. Especially if she is directing comments towards the coaches, players, or referees at said event.

The players take instructions from their coaches when the game is in progress -- that's their job. Not parents in the stands.

Get her tossed from the game/arena. No different than any other disruptive behavior by any other attendee.

What's up with the continuances? Tell your lawyer that you're paying him/her to get your case heard, and that you are specifically instructing him/her to object to any and all future continuances and move for immediate hearing on the matter. 10 months and more than two continuances is plenty of time for the other side to get their act together. But the judge will allow it as long as your lawyer doesn't object (and gets to bill you for more court time). So remind your lawyer of the employer/employee relationship and their obligation to pursue YOUR case, not the opposing counsel's tactic to delay endlessly the matter and increase your costs while providing you no relief on the matter you are asking the court to resolve.