Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

By Kevin Mammola

Divorce Lawyer, Cordell & Cordell

Divorce is a highly charged, emotional time for all parties involved. When tempers are high, and fuses are short, trouble can arise that might lead to orders of protection being issued.

I recently came across a situation where an argument between a divorcing couple over child custody agreements turned ugly and the husband pushed his wife.

Through the course of a nearly 20-year marriage, this man had never hit, abused or even threatened those actions to his wife or his children in any way. He said his emotions simply got the best of him, he had no idea where the aggression came from, and he knew it was wrong the moment he touched her.

It was not a violent push; there were no bruises or marks or injuries. But by pushing her, it is likely that a court will find he committed an act of family violence.

So how does he deal with this situation, and how does the threat of having a temporary protection order issued against him affect his pending divorce case?

Question:

My ex girlfriend has a case of burglary of habitat.  The police even took pictures of her coming towards me, assaulting me, and physically damaging me.  Later, we tried to work things out, and she even moved back in.  It wasn't long before she called the police on me for taking her car.  When they arrived, they took her to jail for violating a court order to not return to my house, and for violation of a protective order.

We have a 6 month old boy. I have a mortgage to pay, and I have been a retail management for six years now.  Currently, she has not been convicted, but does this history help me with a custody case?

Question:

My wife has basically abandoned our relationship after 26 years claiming that I have been verbally abusing her. She has moved in with a friend where she now sleeps.

She comes when I'm not here to do laundry for the kids and herself. We no longer share the monthly bills. I need to keep the house and the kids fed and safe.

What are my options to keep her away from house and kids?

DadsDivorce editor, Rick Ortiz, speaks to Elizabeth Crawford, Executive Director for African Americans For Violence Reform.  Ms. Crawford explains the reasons the Violence Against Women Act has failed to protect women, children, men and their families.

AAVR strives to reform the act through education and outreach.  People who are concerned with the harms that the legislation have caused or who want to learn more can go to the group's website: www.aavreform.org  to sign the petition or to read the accounts of those who have been harmed by the law.