Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

Question:

After all the years of not being with my daughter, I have often asked who I can hold accountable for the lost relationship with her. She is now married and finally living away from her mother. It has been over 15 years since I have seen her even though I paid all of the child support. Issues arose during my visitation times to the point where they no longer took place. I teach school and have no criminal record of any kind (except for a speeding ticket). What can I do?

Question:

I've been Iraq for almost two years now, and have been married for 23 years as of this month.  I just found out that my wife has been cheating on me, but she does not know that I know the truth. What advice can you give me on how to plan for a divorce settlement?

Question:

What are the consequences of closing our shared savings and checking so I can control the money? Over the last year, my wife has run up a shared Visa buying shoes and a wardrobe. I do not trust my wife since we were just in a 2-month separation.

I'm back in the home now, but she shows no signs of love, desire, nor hope. In the mean time, I found out her Mom sent her a bit of money a few years ago. She also opened a credit card in her name and is using it to pay our mortgage and other home bills on a monthly basis. She then pays the Visa using our shared checking account. I think she has been building and establishing credit. 

I earn the money because she refuses to work, and I feel that she is positioning herself to leave me and take much of what I have worked for. Any advice?

Answer submitted by family law attorney, Brian Craig of Cordell & Cordell, P.C.

Question:

Can anyone tell me if having a girlfriend while going through a divorce would have any negative impact on court proceedings? Custody? Settlement?

Answer:

That is a great question and one that I am asked nearly every day. To answer the question simply, yes, having a girlfriend can negatively impact the outcome of divorce proceedings. There are literally thousands of scenarios of this question and each could individually impact the proceedings very differently. For purposes of this response, I will focus on two generalized possibilities though...

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My wife got an attorney through a legal aide society. Her attorney took on her case as pro bono and is attempting to slam me with her fees.  According to the settlement offer I just received, I am to pay $5000 for my wife's legal fees. Does her attorney have the right to charge me even though she took it on as pro bono?