My wife and I are in the process of a divorce. We have signed divorce, agreement and child custody papers and awaiting the final date. Wife is a pathological liar and cheated and is still dating a guy. The lies have now caused me to question the boyfriend's ability to be allowed around my 6-year-old daughter. Wife claimed he attempted to rape her one night, that he threatened to commit suicide (was going thru his own divorce) and the times he called the house and I spoke to him he was drunk. My wife's allegation of attempted rape was told to me and a mutual friend. She now claims it was a lie and that he no longer drinks and the suicide threat was a cry for help. I have asked during our separation that he be kept away from our daughter on the nights wife has her. Until recently this was met. Wife also is on anti-depressants and is prone to emotional outbursts. Is it possible to obtain a restraining order protecting my daughter from boyfriend based on the items I described? In our agreement I have kept custody of house as family residence, no alimony and agreed to daughter's education, medical etc. These items are also being kept in mind in regards to restraining order until divorce is final. Please help a confused, caring dad.

Let me start out by saying I dont wan't to be divorced - my information is well documented on forum threads - yesterday my world came falling apart and I am in a bad place. Suffice it to say my wife called me at 1:00 and told me I needed to come home for the sake of the children -- I arrived home and she told me to take the girls somewhere so we could talk about our relationship - told me to take them to day care -- I agreed and left the house. I drove on my way to the day care but just felt that I should go back home - I turned around to go back and I got upstairs and she had cut both of her wrists - in earlier years she had taken about 20 tylenol pm with rampant thoughts of suicide and she then began to cut herself - arms and legs mostly - she has deep scars - I called 911 and they took her to the hospital - she refused to see me - called me all night telling me how much she hates me-- full of cursing and disdain - she is beligerent and violent - they transferred her to a mental unit and she is still there right now and the doctor is in the process of getting a court order to keep her there for evaluation against her will - she called me all night at least once an hour to tell me how much she hated me and despised me and I ruined her life and it was all my fault etc. and she told me to get her as much money as I possibly could and for me to file divorce first thing this morning. She says she has no rights or she would have already filed herself. She asked me to take money and her car up to the hospital and leave it there and she would leave all assets to me the three girls - the house etc - she just wanted as much money as I could come up with, -- as stated I dont want to be divorced - but I am more than concerned for the welfare of my children - if I am forced to file for divorce due to her request and to beat her to it since I am certain she will -- even though she is irrational in thought and behavior - I maintain the slightest hope that she will get the help she needs and become who she once was -- is that possible? Am I fooling myself ? should I file now and seek joint conservatorship with myself being designated as the one who has the last say regarding residency etc.?