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 by Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., Author of Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do
Books for stepmothers tend to perpetuate certain myths. The myth of the blended family and the myth of the maternal stepmother are the most glaring examples. These books' relentlessly upbeat tone can make stepmothers feel as though our own occasional negativity and impatience regarding his kids are freakish. Other books on stepmothering are so lighthearted, so insistent that we see the humor in our situation and in our responses to it, that reading them feels suspiciously like being told that our concerns don't matter and that we just need to lighten up. But the real problem with many books for stepmothers is not what they imply, but what they actually say:
- Remember that his kids will always come first.
- Leave the disciplining to him.
- You will regret it forever if you lose your temper or say something nasty to your stepchildren, so whatever you do, don't.
- With patience and love, they will come around.
The fact that these directives have become a virtual mantra, the unassailable golden rules of stepmothering does not mean that they are right.
Question: I have been remarried for a year and my ex-wife is getting married next week. I was required to increase my child suuport in April because my ex-wife was fired from her job. A week later she bought a 3 bedroom house. The man she is marrying has 2 sons who now share a room with my son. Before we were married my children each had their own bedroom in a 2000 square foot house. Now my son must share his room with 2 boys who are 6 years younger than him. I have a 4 bedroom house where my children each have their own room. Can a file for a reduction in child support since my children are not living in the manner they were accustomed to or can I file for primary residence.? We currently have joint custody and she has primary residence. I want to support my children but I don't feel my7 child support should have to pay for the other 2 boys. Answer: Allow me to preface my answer to your question with the disclaimer that I am not licensed to practice law in the state of New York. It will be difficult to modify child support now so quickly after one modification was entered. you have to show the change that has occurred to change child support, and that would not be including their actual living environment.
 Book review by Mitchell VonGemmingen
Divorce and making significantly emotional changes and concessions in one’s life are never easy considering that these life changes are never intentionally planned. Even with the daily pain one can encounter in the aftermath of a failed relationship, everyday is a new opportunity to make amends towards others and most importantly, towards oneself. The book, “Moving On: Dump Your Relationship Baggage and Make Room for the Love of Your Life” by authors Russell Friedman and John W. James is a straight forward, succinct, and approachable self-help manual for anyone of either gender or orientation who is truly motivated to overcome past unresolved relationship issues, repeated relationship patterns, and incomplete relationships. There is a pervading tone of optimism throughout the book that should help the reader recognize that working through relationship issues is not only possible, but is also necessary in order to grow and to have the successful relationship that most people desire.
Question: My ex-wife purposely doesn't work in order to receive additional child support and submit only the Oregon state basic minimum wage of $1299/mo, however, her husband's income is approximately $4,000/mo. Does this factor in at all when calculating child support? And does the fact that she arbitrarily infringes upon my visitation (ruins it by suggesting "options" to coming with me to my small children, i.e., play with the cousins instead, etc.) on a now regular basis affect what I pay? Answer: Allow me to preface my answer to your question with the disclaimer that I am not licensed to practice law in the state of Oregon. Generally a new spouse's income does not come into play in determining the amount of child support. In general her interfering with your visitation will not give you any right to request a reduction of child support.
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