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I have been divorced over 5 years. I pay no child support. I have joint legal and joint physical custody of my son. We get along fine and trade days, weeks, eves, etc. with absolutely no problems. Recently, my ex has become very serious about changing jobs. Because of her career, there is about a 90% likelihood she will take about a 10-15k a year pay cut. I asked her how she will be able to afford that type of pay cut? She will only say that she doesn't need that much money to make it. I am concerned that she is going to go after a modification and now ask for child support. I have kept my end of the bargain, my son lives with me 1/2 the time and we split all expenses 50/50. We originally made about the same money. Now I have a disibility retirement pension plus I've started my own company. I may make about 10k more than she does presently, including my retirement. Do I have anything to worry about? Am I being too paranoid? When I had to suddenly take a disability retirement I never asked her for money when she made more than me. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance!!

My husband will be retiring soon from the Air Force and his ex wants, and according to the Air Force, is entitled to half his retirement pay. She ran out on him and left him with 4 kids and all of the bills while she was off doing "her own thing". Have you heard of anyone challenging the military on the automatic payment of 50% of retirement to the ex spouse. I understand why it was originally writte; to protect wives that were run out on, but she did it to him! It just seems so wrong !!!