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I am in the end stages of a divorce, so they tell me, but I cannot help feeling the system is incredibly bias when looking at child custody. My story is unfortunately like many military members: I was in Iraq, upon my return I received the “Dear John” call, found out she had a boyfriend, etc.

I have two daughters, now ages 4 and 6, that I love dearly. I spend as much time as I can with them and want more – we currently have the great California mandated 50/50 plan. Throughout the entire process she has continually lied and violated every restraining order or stipulation that has been put in place and there have been no repercussions.

I have sworn to defend our country and Constitution but when it comes to my rights as a father, I feel like I have none.  

She lives with her boyfriend, has for over 14 months, and I still have to pay spousal support because she denies it. I have proof of her living arrangement and her deliberately under reporting her income but I continually get told “we’ll work that into the final settlement.”

Question:

I am an American now living in the Philippines, and I made a mistake by marrying the wrong Filipina. I want a U.S. divorce from her. I have a friend who was in the same situation and got a U.S. divorce without leaving the Philippines a year ago.

I am on Social Security and no longer have a home in the United States; therefore I cannot afford to come there for a time to accomplish a divorce.

The U.S. Embassy here in the Philippines tells me that getting a U.S. divorce is possible in my situation. I have heard that once the divorce has been acquired, I can simply have it legally entered into record here in the Philippines.