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 By Len Stauffenger
Hanukkah, Christmas—the holidays are coming. You love those little rascals and you want to be with them; you want to share all the wonderful experiences the holidays promise.
But you’re a divorced dad — or you are getting a divorce — and you don’t want to share them with your ex. What to do?
Here are three rules that will help get you through the holidays:
By Corrine Bylund
 Holidays are stressful. Planning early can help ensure that everyone can continue to have memorable happy holidays, even in the midst of litigation.
First, some dos and don’ts for the holiday season:
Question: I would like some information on first rights. My fiance has joint custody of his daughter from a previous relationship. He gets the child one week and his ex gets her the next. He agreed to first rights in the custody agreement. My understanding of the Parenting Guidelines is that if he has to hire someone to care for the child on his week while he is at work, he must first give the mother the option for additional parenting time. Since we live together and I am available to keep her at home while he is at work, does he have to offer her first rights? We have been told that Indiana doesn't even have a first right statute any longer, but he put it in the custody agreement. She is so hostile that she wants him to not even leave the child with me for his doctor's appointments. She is constantly causing problems and as soon as we can afford to obtain an attorney we would like to take her back to court to have first rights taken out, to change the custody from one week to two at a time, and to have the court explain to her what reasonable and flexible means. We have tried to keep his daughter at home with me while he is at work, but she causes so much trouble that he relents and lets her take her. Neither one of them work 9-5 jobs. He works 1pm - 7pm, and she works at a BP gas station so her schedule can change from day to day. Even though she does try to keep a schedule on his week so that she is always available to have the child when he is at work. To show how unreasonable she can be - when his older daughter(child's half sister) graduated, she absolutely refused to extend any additional time so that we could take her with us. It was his week when we left on Wed but the graduation was not until Sat. This was also Memorial Day weekend (and it was her holiday). He offered her Fourth of July and all make up days for the extra time that we would have her. She basically told him that since I was going that he could not take her. That if his parents (who live in Alabama) wanted to take her that they could, but she didn't want me having any extra time with her daughter. It didn't matter that it was her sister's graduation. Even though he usually tries to get along and not rock the boat, we took her with us any way. It was pure hell when we got back. We save all of the voicemail messages that she leaves and record them on cassette tapes in anticipation of going back to court. Thanks for your help. Linda Answer: I am not licensed in IN and therefore cannot answer your question specifically to the laws of that State. We often put rights of first refusal into parenting plans, though I often do not recommend using them if the parents are unable to communicate. My typical language used for a right of first refusal includes a timeframe of 2-4 hours of estimated time that the child would be with a third party before the need to call the other parent kicks in. However, if the terms of right of first refusal is active, you as the fiance (or step parent for that matter) are a "third party" and the mother should be called before leaving the child with you. With regard to your Memorial Day incident, I believe the Mother was justified in giving you "hell" upon your return. It is not justified to take her weekend regardless of the reasons behind her refusal to trade weekends. She is not obligated to explain her reasons for refusing to trade holidays. The court order controls. It would be nice if people could always work together, be flexible in trading weekends or altering pick up times, but if the parties are unable to AGREE to a change, it is not justified that your fiance just take her weekend. Be careful returning to court if mother can show more incidents like you describe. It might end up that the father has less than fifty-fifty at the end of that fight.
 by R.J. Jaramillo of SingleDad.com
I was recently interviewed by DETAILS Magazine about Father’s Day and Fatherhood. One of the questions was about the meaning of fatherhood and how fathers are portrayed on TV and more importantly, in society as a whole. I was asked if there was a father figure from TV that I remembered or that stuck out in my mind. I felt like I was taking an Alzheimer’s quiz…
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Question: My child decided that she did not want to see her father again and I was wondering what her rights are if she wants to "divorce" him. We live in Missouri and he lives in West Virginia and he wanted her to come out for Christmas. She decided she didn't want to go and never wanted to see him again (it's been probably two years since she's seen him). I was just wondering if she had any rights in her wanting to "divorce" him. Answer: How old is your daughter? What does the Court order say about visitation? Courts are more prone to listen to the wishes of a teenager versus a 7 year old. However, she can not "divorce" him. He could terminate his rights, but that requires him to want the same, which does not sound like the situation.
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