Among the Ask a Divorce Lawyer questions answered today by Cordell & Cordell attorneys:

• If she gets an equity loan on her gifted property, will that debt also be my debt in divorce?
• Do I and my ex wife have to file bankruptcy together or apart?
• In order to keep the house, can we settle on a child support payment amount that is less than the Friend of Court would determine?
• Is infidelity ever taken into account when awarding parenting time or child support?
• Is it considered kidnapping if the father does not consent to his children moving?
• Can grandparents seek custody?
• Can I ask to be my niece's legal guardian even if I'm stationed overseas?
• Where should I file the modification if I don't live where the divorce took place?

Question:

My son has two children with his ex-girlfriend, and they have been separated for more than 3 years. My son technically has joint custody of the kids, but he never sees them. His ex-girlfriend bars me from seeing my grandkids when I visit the city they live in; I travel there every year to see my family who also lives in the area. She has told the kids that I’m dead and that’s why they don’t see me. Is there anything I can do legally about this? Do grandparents have any rights to see their grandchildren following a divorce?
 

Among the Ask a Divorce Lawyer questions answered today by Cordell & Cordell attorneys:

• How can I lower the amount of my pay that is being garnished?
• How long do I have to pay maintenance?
• As a grandparent, can I fight for custody of my granddaughter?
• What if we aren't asking for child support from each other?
• I've discovered the original child support calculation from 2005 was in error by over $100 per month. What can I do?
• Can I file a lawsuit against the Friend of the Court or the state for discrimination?
• Is there a law stating that either party in a divorce cannot be taken back to court until two years have passed?
• Can my ex, who has custody, leave the country with our child without my permission?
• What is the law concerning reimbursement of overpayment of child support?
• Does a smoking and drinking parent have less chance than a non-smoking, non-drinking parent at retaining custody?

Question: My ex and I went through a divorce that was finalized in 2007. 

I got a letter in the mail last week saying that my ex's parents want to adopt my daughter. This means that my ex is giving up custody rights so does that mean that the rights default to me? 

I haven’t even been able to see my daughter because she lives far away and I can’t afford to fly there so will this have an impact on the case?

 Also, if I agree to the adoption to my daughter’s grandparents does that mean I stop paying child support?