Matt Allen, editor of DadsDivorce.com, speaks with Kenneth Pangborn about helping those who have been wrongly accused in domestic cases.

He is the founder of The A-Team, a group made up of trial consultants, lawyers, psychologists, doctors and investigators that help those wrongly accused of child abuse, domestic violence and marital rape, among other crimes.

Question: I recently filed for and had a temporary matters hearing. I’ve spent 20 years of my life being abused by my wife, who also has abused our children. I had a doctor confirmation and my adult children testified to the abuse and said my youngest child would be safer with me. 

My bi-polar wife, who has been on medication for 10 years, even admitted on the stand that she dreams of killing herself. In spite of all of this, the judge gave temporary custody to my wife. Huh?!? 

So my youngest, who was with me every weekend for the past year, now only gets to see me every other weekend. What's wrong with the system and do I have any options?

Question: We are going through a divorce and both of our kids, ages 12 and 10, state they want to live with me. 

My wife had an affair while we were married, and now she’s telling the court I physically abused her, which is absolutely not true. She is just saying that to make me seem like an unfit person to have sole custody of my kids. I have two kids that say they want to live with me and a cheating wife who is now lying about abuse. 

Will the court automatically believe her lies about abuse? With these false allegations, what chance do I have to get complete custody of my kids?

Question: What can I do to change the proposed condition in our divorce? She filed for divorce claiming that I have caused our family to break apart because of a gambling issue, our financial problems, and many disagreements. I admitted my mistakes and signed the divorce papers without disagreeing to all her requests. I found out later that she had been gambling constantly and had been meeting someone for a while. How can I change or revise the conditions, such as the $750 child support and especially the custody of my kids? Will it be in my favor if I presented a police report of her attacking and hitting? Can I use her bank statements proving she's been gambling? Is it considered abandonment when she told me and our son she was leaving as she packed her bag and did not come home until the next night? Do I need a lawyer?

Question: I want to divorce my wife. She continually accuses me of chasing women and constantly forces me to leave work early to take care of our 9-month-old daughter because she claims she’s “sick.” I think she just wants me to be at home to always monitor me. She is unemployed and can’t handle taking care of our daughter any extended period of time. She won't agree to a separation, and if I cannot take the pain and grief anymore, I may have to leave. 

Once, years ago, I did hit my wife in the back, and I fear that she will file for a restraining order to keep me from our daughter if I leave, and file other false allegations toward this end, as she did with her previous husband and her older daughter. 

What can I do to protect my rights as a father and my daughter's rights to be with me against such maneuvers? In practice, do I have any chance of getting primary custody of my daughter given my employment and ability to care? What kind of custody arrangements are most often delivered by courts to fathers of young infants?