I recently built a new home with my ex-wife to be and we currently owe $155,000.00 or less. The home was appraised for over $250,000.00 six months ago. All furniture and appliances are paid for and still in mint condition. My question is if I allow her to keep everything but my clothes and my vehicle(she has a vehicle also) after committing adultery will still likely be responsible for spousal support and the same amount of child support? Also we signed papers agreeing to 7 & 7 custody on my first week I was stopped by local authorities and my vehicle was searched and towed due to no proof of insurance. I was not charged with anything, however; she has supposedly had custody changed so that i only get supervised visitation. She and her mother are attempting to convince local authorities that I am a drug dealer and they (my previous in-laws) make over one million dollars a year so they are listened to. I am not worried about getting into any trouble because the are false accusations, but I am concerned about her changing custody agreement. I know she is working for her mother and I am sure that they will try to say she makes very little money. Any suggestions? I was trying not to fight about anything and just use one lawyer but I am getting the bad end of the deal. Is adultery worth me attempting to prove? Should I just accept I have no chance of coming out with my clothes?

My wife recently admitted to being engaged in an affair with a co-worker who is married with two children. I am very hurt/sad/angry/confused and have begun meeting with a couselor for guidance. My wife has said, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," and "I don't know if I want to try to save our marriage." I fear that she may be preparing to leave me. My goal is to repair our marriage, but I am worried that, despite my efforts, we may be doomed. She has talked of "remaining friends" and "staying close," as if when we were to split, we would just shake hands, smile, divide up our personal belongings happily, and part ways. I don't see it being that amicable or that simple and am wondering if I should be taking steps to protect myself in case she decides that her affair is not enough torture for me and asks for a divorce.

My brother is going through a divorce. His wife is bound and determined to take him to court and put on a show with a parade of "witnesses" to publicly humiliate him with claims of an affair. She is actually exacting a type of extortion on my parents and my brother to get him to agree to take all the bills and sell his horses and personal property to give her more money OR ELSE she will take him to court where he will surely lose and be punished by having to pay everything! It's hard to stand up to something when you don't really know how things work in our court system. I understand that affairs or claims of affairs can not adversely affect custody unless it can be shown that it interferes with the ability to parent. But, his soon-to-be-ex-wife wants to saddle him with all the debts and lawyers' fees as a just punishment. And believe me, she could put on quite a show... I think she is a professional victim! She makes more money than he does, and neither one of them makes more than 45,000. Do you have any words of wisdom?