Can I move if their is nothing in the court systems. I want take my child out of state with me.

I do not want a divorce, but want to go to counseling. If my wife chooses to leave, do I have to give her financial support after she leaves? The way I see it is she is deserting me and I am already providing her a home and vehicle. I have gave her no grounds to file for a divorce. We have 2 children and she would not be able to leave me and provide a home for the children on her income. I do not want her to leave. Our home would be open to her to return to at anytime. I would allow her to take her vehicle if she choses to leave without my conset, but do not want to support her in this decision. I want her to try counseling before a seperation and divorce is considered. I know I can not stop her from leaving, but don't want her to leave. Can I prevent her from taking the children. I already provide a good home for her and the children.

I have a current order that says that I am to pay my former spouse $350 a month for child support. This is to the penny based on what the guidelines show that I should pay in Virginia. This does take into account what I pay for my son's health insurance also. My higher paying job was done away with in March 2005 and I started a new job the very next week I was released from my management position. I was released because sales were slow for the business and the owner saw it necessary to let me go (high salary) and for him to manange our stores himself. I am on a set "training pay" for 6 months then I will be on commission only. My set pay shows that I should pay quite a bit less and then, taking into account what I pay for my son's health insurance, now makes it even a little less. What I need to know is since we will not be in court until the end of this year and I cannot afford to pay the $350 a month since I do not have the "present ability to comply" due to my lower paying job for now, can I faithfully pay her what would be required by the guidelines and keep myself from getting in trouble for not obeying the current order that says I should pay $350 a month? Thanks for your items I purchased form the Dads Store. It has helped me quite a bit.

If my divorcing spouse gets half of the marital share of my 401k, shouldn't I seek an incentive (such as extra cash) in our settlement agreement to make up for the possible "lost opportunity cost" (future value) of the monies being taken out of my 401K?