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Feb 12
2010

Valentine's Day: Celebrating Love and Intimacy Isn’t Limited to Couples

Posted by Matt Allen in Valentine's Day , Richard Avdoian , post-divorce , advice

By Richard Avdoian, MS, MSW, CSP

Following divorce, individuals tend to avoid difficult situations and relationships.  Valentine’s Day happens to be one of those difficult situations that tugs at our hearts, strains our emotions and drums up good and bad memories.

Use this time to thaw frozen feelings and let go of the feelings of anger and resentment that have restricted your ability to experience love and the pleasures of life.

Intimacy is one of the most significant human needs.  Intimacy is not limited to a spouse or partner but rather encompasses all facets of life.  One can be intimate with our parents, children, friends, nature and the world around us.

Read on for tips to entertain yourself and celebrate this Valentine’s Day.

Dec 03
2009

A Mans Mind: Divorce Tips To Claim, Focus and Engage By Living a Healthy Life

Posted by Rick Ortiz in Richard Avdoian , psychology , health , counseling , a mans mind

by Richard Avdoian, MS, MSW, CSP

Three of the deepest human necessities are the need to belong, to be needed, and be involved with family, work and community.  It is important to remain healthy during divorce and afterwords.

The need to belong and engaged is so great that people who aren’t actively engaged in all facets of life tend to be poor performers, disengaged, lack motivation and simply exist one-dimensionally. 

In some cases being detached and inactive can lead to bouts of down-heartedness, depression and higher rates of chronic illnesses.  Read more to find out what you should be doing to stay in the game.

Nov 20
2009

Ask A Divorce Lawyer: Military Divorce

Posted by Rick Ortiz in Richard Avdoian , military , divorce , Cordell Cordell, PC , Ask A Lawyer

Question: I am asking this on behalf of my son. My son is active duty Navy based on active deployment on an aircraft carrier based in Japan. His wife is in the states, Shreveport, LA. His state of residency is Texas, he was sent to Japan right after they married, a little over 2 years ago. He had to earn a higher rank and go through several processes to get permit for her to come to Japan. He did so and then she decided not to go, now he cannot get that permit again as he goes back to the states next September.

There is a great chance that she will serve him with a divorce. From what I understand, Navy lawyers do not handle divorce cases, that jurisdiction goes back to the states. This is a tough one for him. When the carrier goes out for maneuvers, they could be out to sea for 3 months running. I do not know how to advise him. The question is: how should he proceed in light of the fact that her behavior indicates that the marriage is over. He wants to be in a good position to have control over his divorce because if she takes control it will be hard for him to respond while on active duty.


Nov 13
2009

A Mans Mind: Divorce And Depression In Men

Posted by Rick Ortiz in Richard Avdoian , psychology , counseling , a mans mind

Are You Sure You’re Not Depressed?

Most men will experience temporary periods of downheartedness or imbalance in their lives during the divorce process and for a period of time once the divorce is final.  Experiencing long periods of downheartedness or imbalance can be dangerous to their health, be destructive to their relationships and can negatively affect their job performance

How do you know when you've crossed from bouts with downheartedness to depression?

 

Nov 03
2009

A Mans Mind: Divorce and Getting Over It

Posted by Rick Ortiz in Richard Avdoian , psychology , counseling , a mans mind

by Richard J. Avdoian, MS, MSW, CSP

In the course of a divorce, we are often hurt by others and by ourselves through our self-doubt. Holding in hurt feelings for months in some cases years, is stressful, can cause minor and major illnesses and result in a very dysfunctional life.

Learning to forgive, get over it and make a decision to move forward is an important part of reclaiming a healthy life.

Stuck in Crisis Mode

Small hurtful comments or situations are typically easy to laugh off or process with little aftermath reaction.  But there are hurts that we experience that are so unfair, unforeseen, deeply felt that we retreat and we get “stuck in crisis mode” we choose not to forgive the person(s) who caused the situation that created the hurt.

 

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