Question: 

My wife and I have been married for four years and we have a 3-year-old son. I've been on active duty the entire time and have spent the majority of that time deployed to Iraq. We have both agreed to get a divorce, but no paperwork has been filed as yet since I'm currently overseas. My mid-tour leave is coming up in February and my wife has just told me that I won't be allowed to see my son when I return unless she is there with him. This leave will be the only two weeks for the next year in which I will be home.

Can she prevent me from taking my son with me while I'm home in the U.S.? And if she cannot, what can I do to enforce this? She has no justification to do this. It seems she's only using our son to get me to spend time with her as well.

Question:

I have been in Iraq for 15 months and was recently served divorce papers. I have a lot going on and I can't concentrate on this without putting my life in danger.  I want to make her happy, so I've told her I would divorce her.

I have the Petition for Divorce & "Waiver of Service." The grounds for divorce are: "Insupportable because of discord or conflict of personalities."  I want to be with my kids more than anything. She wants $1000 a month child support, conservator who has exclusive right to designate the primary residence of children.  I provide medical child support.

I don't know where to start. She told me she will wait on getting the divorce until I get back in two months, and that all I need to do is sign and notarize the "Waiver of Service" and send it back.

Do you have any words of advice?

Question:

I've been Iraq for almost two years now, and have been married for 23 years as of this month.  I just found out that my wife has been cheating on me, but she does not know that I know the truth. What advice can you give me on how to plan for a divorce settlement?