By Contel Bradford
Note: This is Part 2 of a two-part series on tips for preparing for your daughter’s first date. Click here to read Part 1.
Wait Up
So you had a long, grueling adventure at the office and can’t wait to put this day behind you. That’s all fine and dandy, but if it happens to go down on the day of your daughter’s first date, then you just have to grin, bear and sacrifice the sleep. Hopefully you aren’t allowing her to stay out too late, but whatever the curfew, you need to be there waiting to make sure it is obliged. More importantly, you need to ensure that your daughter had an enjoyable night out on the town and a safe return.
Besides, this is your chance to check for any signs of intoxication or foul play. You can also take advantage of this moment to find out how gentlemen-like and respectful the young man is. When you hear the engine stop in front of the house, don’t hesitate to peek out the window to make sure he opens the car door, and escorts her to the front porch. If he doesn’t, this is one guy you may not have to worry about much longer.
Should I Have the Sex Talk?
For a father, talking to your daughter about sex can be very uncomfortable. You may not feel the need if the first date occurs on the typical Thursday evening, but if the prom is involved, I think you should strongly consider it. Not every teen boy is interested in having a fling with his teacher. Some would prefer to stay within their age range. I don’t want to condemn all adolescent males as no-good sex fiends, but let’s be honest, a lot of them approach the big dance with a single goal is mind, and your little girl could be a part of the plan.
The hardest pill to swallow here is that in the end, it is ultimately up to your daughter on whether she decides to give up her virginity, which could be far more likely if she and the boy have been “going together” before the first date. If you are forced to have this conversation, the best thing you can do is warn her about the consequences, stress the importance of protection, and reiterate that saying “no” will not spoil her cool factor.
Check Yourself
Teens are very impressionable creatures. Just as your teen son would, your teen daughter will watch you like an eagle and closely observe everything you put in front of her. Everything from your marriage and divorce to your dating life and drinking habits are on display.
If she sees you and your significant other constantly bickering, she may assume that it’s just a normal thing amongst couples. If she frequently sees you and your lady hugging, caressing and kissing, she may think that sort of affection is okay on a first date. Our children pick up our habits, and while no one has ever perfected the art of parenting, we should be able to check ourselves at the door, keep the grown-up stuff under wraps, and set better examples.
Note: This is Part 2 of a two-part series on tips for preparing for your daughter’s first date. Click here to read Part 1.
Contel Bradford is a professional freelance writer, journalist, and published author of multiple books. He specializes in many areas, including legal, divorce, and family-related topics. You can learn more about his services by visiting www.contelbradford.com.
