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My father is 73, retired USAF with 40% disability pay. He is getting divorced. His wife was not with him while he was on active duty. All children are grown and out of the house. He has been the primary bread winner, but she has had a job for quite some time. During the marriage she was funneling money back to the Philippines and bought a house in her name only without telling my father. He recently discovered this. Is his retirement subject to division as marital property even though it was his when he married her? Is his disability also subject to division? Is the house she acquired with his money during the marriage subject to division? Please help? I need some direction for him as he goes into mediation. She also emotionally and physically abused every child but her own while they were in the house. My father was not very aware.

I was married 18 years. 3 children - the last one just graduated high school. Wife has LPN license, but has not worked full time for many years, she mostly worked in home care under the table. I filed for divorce in June 2006. She was already on probation for a theft charge. To make long story short, she was arrested on a felony drug theft charge, had a DUI & several other traffic violations in a short period of time, lost her driver's & nursing license & spent 6 months in correctional facility. I was awarded custody of son & house. Now she is out & wanting $1500/mo in support & her attorney fees paid. She lives w/her sister & works 20 hours/wk at $8/hr. She says she can't find anything else. Her divorce attorney is also criminal attorney. My question is will the court look at the circumstances preceding & during our divorce to determine support? My understanding of spousal support is that it avoids an unfair economic consequence of divorce. The divorce was not the source of her financial problems, her drug problem was. Any advice would be helpful.

Can my arrears that I owe to the state be lowered are waived is there a different between the money I owe for child support and what I owe the state?

My child's father has been paying child support for the past two years while unemployed. He has now been approved for disability and they are going to make it retroactive to Aug. 2005. My child has also been approved and also will be made retroactive. Since I am the custodial parent the payment will come to me. Her father is stating that I need to return the past 2 years of child support to him from this lump sum payment since the amount is greater than his ordered payments. I think the money should be given to my 17 year old to apply towards college since he will stop payments at age 18 and has no order to help with college. Will I have to return the child support paid for the last two years?