I was widowed 7 years ago: 3 Children 7,14,20 (Now) Married 5 1/2 years ago for less than 4 years. Have no children with second wife. Provisional 600 - Maintenance 600 - Rent Prescriptions - 250 average a month All Credit Card Minimum balance (20000 all in her name charged after seperation) Divorce dragging along with contempts, continuations etc. I am on my 3 and 4th final hearings. What rules of the court do I have regarding having 2 children (widowed) and she has none. Judge does not seem to care about me raising children since I make 79000 and she doesn't work. She applied for Social Security benefits and is supposed to have an appeal date soon. Won't disclose information. She is seeking 1100 a month in maintenance, COBRA and me paying her credit cards she charged when she left. I re-financed house before she left and we paid her credit card debt, she took 14000 cash. Seems I am being taken to the cleaners and I am about to lose my house that was mine for 5 years before her and I put her name on after a year of marriage. No equity in home. (120000 owed, 89900 fair market) There doesn't seem to be any laws to protect the widowed chidren and I from losing everything.