My wife recently admitted to being engaged in an affair with a co-worker who is married with two children. I am very hurt/sad/angry/confused and have begun meeting with a couselor for guidance. My wife has said, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you," and "I don't know if I want to try to save our marriage." I fear that she may be preparing to leave me. My goal is to repair our marriage, but I am worried that, despite my efforts, we may be doomed. She has talked of "remaining friends" and "staying close," as if when we were to split, we would just shake hands, smile, divide up our personal belongings happily, and part ways. I don't see it being that amicable or that simple and am wondering if I should be taking steps to protect myself in case she decides that her affair is not enough torture for me and asks for a divorce.
Be sure to have a good understanding of all of your assets and debts. I would suggest you close out as many credit cards as you can and maybe any joint accounts you have. Suggest marriage counseling, if that is what you want. You did not mention kids. If you have any be sure to stay involved and participate with them in their school and activities.