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Oct 07, 2004

Question:

Hi, my X husband ( I was wife #2) is divorcing his 3rd wife. I divorced him because he cheated and was abusive of me and the 3 kids. We live in NC. He says he has to pay $10,000 per month to his new X in alimony (they had no kids. He makes $400,000/year. So, he says he can't pay for child #3 to go to college but might put in $15K per year. He paid me $24,000 per year for 7 yrs when we divorced in 1996 after a 14 year marriage. He was making $230,000 then. I am wondering if any judge would order him to pay $120 K per year in alimony alone , in NC , after a 6 year marriage on a $400 K salary. It's more than half his take home. He has done some bad things and I suspect she is blackmailing him bigtime. He does not tell me how long he has to pay this. The divorce is going throuhg now. Can I believe him?

Answer:

Allow me to preface my answer to your question with the disclaimer that I am not licensed to practice law in the state of North Carolina. I am not sure what the likelihood of the judgment being enetered is, but I can tell you that it is public record. You can request a copy of the Decree from the courthouse.

Oct 06, 2004

Question:

My question is very simple. My ex wife and I are negotiating a settlement, prefeably a shared custody which we feel is best for the children. Her father has taken over all negotiations and made several references to court action if I dont accept his tentative agreement. What is the law's position on the grandparent getting so invoklved in matters like this? (Texas)? Many thanks

Answer:

I cannot answer your question specifically to the laws of Texas as I am not licensed to practice law in that State. In my jurisdiction, intervention by grandparents is only appropriate if there is an issue with the parents. Assuming you are both willing and competent, he should not be involved.

Oct 06, 2004

Question:

Even though I owe back child support, which I intend on paying, my child has turned 18. The support office is still taking out the same amount as before, This included 50 dollars on current child support and 25 dollars on past due. I've been paying this for a few years now, but since my child has turned 18 shouldn't all of it show toward the past due amount. My ex has hidden from me for some years now, so I have no way of finding out where they are, or if they are going to go to college, or even if they are in college. I work out of state so it's hard for me to find out anything from our local child support offices. Are they responsible for finding out if my child has continued school and if so are they responsible for letting me know? I have seen no changes in my support payments.

Answer:

I cannot answer your question specifically to the laws of Tennessee as I am not licensed to practice law in that State. Some jurisdictions require the parents to be proactive and inform the agency as to the child's status. I would assume that is true in your state since your support has continued. I suggest you contact the agency and ask them to send you the paperwork to file a request to terminate current support. They should be able to inform you of the procedure beyond that point.

Sep 07, 2004

Question:

What is a fair amount, have 3 kids, make 71,000. I have been married for 18 yrs. We have a 160,000 dollar home. She has a job that pays 250 a week.

Answer:

I must preface this answer by saying I am not licensed to practice law in Illinois. You can go online and access a child support calculator through dadsdivorce.com. It should give you a pretty good idea of how much support you will owe. I believe Illinois bases child support on a percentage of your income and the number of children you have. Somes states use an income share model which factors in both parents income. As for spousal maintenance, that is usually at the discretion of the court. It will depend on wife's income/earing potential and you income. Also the court will probably consider living expenses.

Sep 07, 2004

Question:

I am asking this question for my son who is a solidier in Baghdad at this present time. He got married under false pretenses before he was being depoyed and he wanted to get out of the marriage ASAP. How can he get that taken care of since he is overseas?

Answer:

He will need to get a Petition of file and get her served. He will most likely need to pursue a divorce particularly if he hopes to do so quickly. It can be filed while he is overseas, but it may not be able to be finalized in his absence unless his wife cooperates. Generally, for a divorce to be granted, it is required that at least one of the parties appear in person in court at the time the divorce is granted.

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