Note: This is Part 1 of a two-part series on Valentine's Day. In Part 2, I showed you how to make the most of Valentine's Day as a single dad.
Personally, I'm not too big on the romance aspect of Valentine's Day. In fact, I’m not all that big on the romantic elements of relationships in general.
I love my girl and all, maybe the ex-wife at one time, but my mushy meter only goes so far.
With that said, being alone on Valentine's Day could be an unsettling feeling regardless. If you want this situation to be different next time around, there are some simple actions you can take to change your luck.
Get Back Out There: One of the toughest things about being divorced is getting out there and starting the courting process all over again. My girl and I worked together, so luckily I didn’t have to go far, but for you it could mean going out to social gatherings every now and then or even joining an online dating site.
If your goal is not to spend Valentine’s Day alone next year, flirt when applicable and display the charm that made you the highly sought after item you were in high school.
Stop Being Picky: Not all the women you meet will possess the qualities that made you fall in love with your wife. On a similar note, a few of them may share some traits with the old ex that you weren’t particularly fond of.
I’m not saying that you should set your standards unreasonably low, only that the perfect woman just doesn’t exist. By measuring every woman against a checklist, you could end up missing out on a good catch.
Secure the Good One: Once you are sure that you have found the one who is as close to your standards as possible, latch onto her and don’t let her get away. No need to go all stalker with it.
Just open yourself up and let the relationship take its course. She may not be the "one", but then again, she could be. You’ll never know unless you make the effort.
Should you find yourself alone again this time next year, don’t sweat it. Maybe the stars still haven’t aligned in your favor.
In the end, Valentine’s Day is just another commercial holiday that rolls around every year. Keep your sprits up, maintain the positive vibe, and know that everything happens for a reason. If it’s meant to be, your time will come.
Note: This is Part 1 of a two-part series on Valentine's Day. In Part 2, I showed you how to make the most of Valentine's Day as a single dad.
Contel Bradford is a professional freelance writer, journalist, and published author of multiple books. He specializes in many areas, including legal, divorce, and family-related topics. You can learn more about his services by visiting www.contelbradford.com.
