Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

I am in my mid-twenties and in the military. I haven't been deployed ever and have served for over 6 years. I married my wife because she was pregnant and we now have two children. She has a history of suicide attempts, alcoholism, and she cannot hold a job. Another thing that bothers me is that she smokes in her car. When I fuss at her about it she says that the girls don't ride in there much. Granted the girls aren't in there at the time but they do ride in there afterwards. She recently quit a job making good money and has left us high and dry and now I am planning on divorce as this has happened too many times. The problem is that I am scared of losing my girls (2 and 3 years old). I would almost rather stay with her and be miserable than leave and be miserable without my children. Do I have a chance of getting my girls? She is not close with her family and will not move back to be near them, but I have a lot of family close to my base and my girls love their grandparents. Also, I stay at home with the girls after work and I was the only one home with the girls on the weekends when she did work. When she would get home on Monday and Thursday nights, she would ignore me and the kids so she could go out. Since she has quit her job, she claims she won't be going out and drinking anymore, but I have heard this in the past. Can you give me any advice?

My 17 year old daughter graduated in June, and plans to attend college in the fall, so I will be paying Child Support for her until she is 21. My problem is that I recently learned from my daughter that she has not lived with her mother in quite sometime & is living with friends (she has worked since she was 16). My ex-wife has been unemployed since October, and has been receiving the child support for all 3 of my daughters, and presumably welfare as well, since she is claiming to be legally unemployed. How do I find out if she is getting public assistance, and prove that it is not going to my daughter?

My husband of a few years has a teenager . He gives the mother cash when he has it. He got fired last winter, collected unemployment and is trying to start a business. He has not contributed to the household since last winter. All the bills, medical insurance and housing is covered from my net of $2,100 a month. He has almost no income now. He filed bankrupcy in the spring of 2005. Can my income be touched for his child support if a case is brought against him ?

My boyfriend's ex-wife (who has custody of their 2 children) has only been putting $400.00 out of the $800.00 per month toward their two young girls. She told my boyfriend that it was none of his business where the rest of the money goes. She does not hold a job and lives off off the girls' child support. My boyfriend lives in Maryland and is now having to get a lawyer in Virginia because of this. Is it legal for her to be spending the girls' money on herself while not working?