Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

By Jill Coil

Utah Divorce Lawyer

You’ll often hear about Facebook and other social networking websites being a foe in your divorce and child custody case, but there are times when these social outlets can also be your friend.

We all have mistakes and regrets in our past that we wish to forget and delete from memory. Before Facebook, these missteps would only be remembered by a small circle of people and they were rarely documented for the public.

But social networking websites allow our transgressions – including those of our spouses - to become public knowledge that can be used in court.  

Divorce lawyers realize it’s easy in our social networking gluttony for people to use their computer keyboard to rant about their case online.

That’s why attorneys Joseph Cordell and Kristin Zurek are warning clients to stay off Facebook and other social media.

"Our average person could not afford to hire a private detective to run around willy-nilly in the hope that over several days he might stumble upon something," Cordell told the St. Charles Suburban Journal. "Now you have a relatively low-paid clerk who is a crack user of the Internet. They can go in and find things that even the lawyers can't find."

By William Halaz

Attorney, Cordell & Cordell

Once you have taken action to set a modification into motion, how will you show that changes you are alleging have taken place? What evidence do you need?

One continuing change that is often difficult to show is that the child has been spending a substantial amount of time with you when the parenting plan states they should be with their other parent.

By William Halaz

Attorney, Cordell & Cordell

To state the obvious, the easiest way to have your custody or visitation schedule changed is to get the other parent to consent to the change.

After reading that, you probably rolled your eyes and thought, "only when pigs fly will she consider changing the current custody schedule we fought tooth and nail over."

First off, it doesn’t hurt to ask. Seems simple enough, but the way you ask is also important.

Question:

I am currently going through a divorce with my wife. I have two children of my own and adopted her two children from a previous marriage. The stepchildren I have adopted are now writing nasty things about me on social networks, like Facebook and Twitter. 

My question is what legal options do I have to confront this disrespectful behavior and ensure that it stops as I am afraid that it may impact my relationship with my biological children?