Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

Question:

This is the exact reading of my child custody agreement with my children's mother.

"Plaintiff and Defendant shall each have first right of refusal regarding childcare for the minor children if care is needed for one hour or more and such shall take priority over a boyfriend/girlfriend or future spouse providing care for any of the minor children."

So am I required under the first right of refusal provision to give the children to my ex-wife in the event that I have the ability to be with my children, but one of them attends a birthday party or activity with a relative like going to the park if I will not be there?

It is my understanding that it applies only in cases where I would need child care, not for them to be able to do something with a friend or family member.

Question:

My question concerns the right of first refusal and whether my longtime girlfriend can watch the children while I am at work during my court-ordered parenting time.

My ex-wife will not drop my child off with my girlfriend at my house after school and before I get home from work because she claims she has right of first refusal if I am not available.

My divorce decree states that transportation shall be made to and from the children's school by the parent who has the child the night before school. In the event that the above mentioned parent cannot provide transportation the other parent shall have the right of first refusal limited, solely limited to picking up or dropping off child in the event the other parent chooses not to exercise the right of first refusal transportation shall be made by a responsible adult.

Is she not following the agreement or am I misinterpreting the clause?

Question:

My divorce decree contains a first right of refusal clause and requires me to pay half of child care and daycare expenses.

My current wife is a stay-at-home-mom and we have offered free child care to my ex-wife, though she has turned it down.

Am I still required to pay half of child care expenses after my ex-wife turned down free daycare with my current wife?

Question:

Our divorce agreement has a right of first refusal clause. I gave proper notice to my ex-wife of my two weeks of uninterrupted summer vacation parenting time.

I also told her during the vacation that our children will be visiting their grandparents for a weekend without me.

I then received a letter threatening contempt because she claims she should have right of first refusal to have our children during that weekend when they are with my parents and not with me.

Is she correct? Who would be responsible for the cost of flying the kids home for a weekend during my scheduled vacation time? She works weekends and won't even be there for most of the day anyway.

Question:

My divorce decree includes a right of first refusal clause when one parent cannot exercise parenting time. 

One night during my scheduled parenting time when I had to work overnight I left the children at home with my girlfriend.

My ex-wife found out and contacted her divorce lawyer saying I was in violation of the first right of refusal clause and should be held in contempt.

Can I be held in contempt for this one instance?