Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

By Matt Allen
Editor, DadsDivorce.com

Dion McInnis felt like dads needed a verb for being a father, an action word that describes what happens in the moments of being a dad. 

"Mothers mother — people get that," McInnis said. "They understand the ongoing nurturing, care giving, and loving that 'mothering' connotes. But if we say we saw a man fathering a child, listeners will tend to believe we saw a man having sex. So, daddin' is a verb I made up to speak the things that fathers do in the moments that comprise the years."

Along with making up the verb, McInnis turned the word into the title of his new book, "Daddin': The Verb of Being a Dad."

The book blends stories and insights from raising three sons and what it means to be a child, a father and a grandparent.

By Matt Allen

Editor, DadsDivorce.com

For the die-hard baseball fan who still wants to show his devotion to the sport even when wearing a suit, RedEnvelope.com has the perfect gift for you: baseball cufflinks handmade with authentic Major League Baseball game-used balls.

The cufflinks feature the ball’s famous red stitches along the seams and if the certificate of authenticity isn’t enough, you can tell these are game-used by the well-worn leather and dirtiness of the ball. These aren’t your pristine, bright white baseballs that have never been touched. But don’t worry; your cuffs won’t end up looking like a dirty baseball as the ball is set in sterling silver bezels with swivel backs.

Question: 

I have been divorced just over three years and my ex-wife is filing for a review so that the child support can be revised upward since I make more money now. Her lawyer asked me for paystubs and tax information and I gave him what he asked for. He then gave copies of everything to my ex-wife.

I'm pretty steamed about this. I may not like it, but I wish I'd at least been asked or informed before he gave her all of my financial information. Is what the lawyer did justifiable and/or legal? Also, what are my options for reviewing the child support revision when they send it to me? I can’t afford to retain a lawyer.

Dan Danford, host of Money Made Easy, talks about the uses of, and need for, an annual review of your financial situation.

Danford, MBA, CRSP of Family Investment Center, uses his own experience as a small business owner and financial advisor to explain options and best choices for your review process.

Defiant Dads: Fathers’ Rights Activists in America

By Jocelyn Elise Crowley, Cornell University Press 2008

Book Review by Matt Krogh

“Defiant Dads,” by Dr. Crowley of Rutgers University, could have been an important and useful analysis of what is right and wrong about this growing movement of divorced and divorcing. Unfortunately, while the book provides excellent background data, the author’s analysis is marred by her refusal to acknowledge that fathers’ rights activists’ primary political interest—encouraging equal-time parenting—could ever be a good idea.