Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

By Lisa S. Brown

Board Certified Counselor

As a counselor, I offer divorce help for men and frequently tell struggling divorced dads that there is one thing in life that you can always count on: change.

Change can be a good thing when things are less than desirable in our lives or we can perceive it as a bad thing if we are at a place to where we do not want things to change.

Going through a divorce for men certainly brings about a lot of change and with that change anxiety can result.

Although change can be scary it can also be the greatest force behind our growth and development as human beings.

By Lisa S. Brown

Board Certified Counselor

"I just want to be happy."

This is something I am sure we all have felt at some or another, particular during the divorce phase. There is usually an air of frustration with the feeling of constantly trying to seek happiness.

It is easy to continuously live in the past or look to the future for possibilities but in all reality we should be looking at living in the moment to find happiness.

Happiness is right before most of us but we get so focused on what is “missing” from our lives that we overlook all the love and joy around us. As the weather starts warming up, I encourage you to take time to appreciate all the beauty that exists around you.

Here are five tips on living a happier life:

Question:

My wife suffers from a personality disorder, which has been informally diagnosed by our family therapist. As a result of her mental illness, she is emotionally and physically abusive to my children and I.

Can a court order be put into place to have a psychological exam done on my wife? And if she was found to be mentally unfit, how could that change the outcome of the custody battle?

by Richard Avdoian, MS, MSW, CSP

Three of the deepest human necessities are the need to belong, to be needed, and be involved with family, work and community.  It is important to remain healthy during divorce and afterwords.

The need to belong and engaged is so great that people who aren’t actively engaged in all facets of life tend to be poor performers, disengaged, lack motivation and simply exist one-dimensionally. 

In some cases being detached and inactive can lead to bouts of down-heartedness, depression and higher rates of chronic illnesses.  Read more to find out what you should be doing to stay in the game.