Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

By Gary M. Zeiss, Esq.

I rolled out of bed at around 9:30, early for a Sunday. It was going to be a nice day - not too hot, not too cold. Classic early October weather. Not a cloud in the sky. 

I went into the kitchen and started the coffee. Then I looked outside at my job for the day. I've been putting this off for weeks (actually for years). Nevertheless, it needed to be done. No more procrastination. 

I started the coffee and walked the dogs. Then I poured more and sat down in the living room for a few minutes. The Bills were playing the Giants - the game was just starting. I couldn't give a damn about either team but the game still drew me in. Another 45 minutes passed.

I walked back into the kitchen for yet another cup. I realized that I was putting this job off yet again. I pushed the button and the garage door opened.

There it was, my stuff.

Not a normal collection of things that had accumulated over the years - my stuff was morbidly special. The remnants of a marriage and family shattered by disease and divorce. And it was my job to sift through it.

By Lisa S. Brown

Board Certified Counselor

Love is a wonderful feeling that two people can share together, but when looking for advice on divorce, how does one decide when it is right to love again after a painful divorce?

There are exceptions but in most cases it is strongly encouraged that people wait at least a year after the divorce is final to engage in a serious relationship. Why is this?

The main reason for allowing some time to heal is that it is easy to fall into the "rebound" trap after the marriage is over. Rebound relationships can stall or even prevent one’s full recovery.

By Lisa S. Brown

Board Certified Counselor

"Drugs do not make us happy, people do." - William Glasser

If I have learned anything during my lifetime is that we need people!

We were not put on this earth to function completely independent. We need a support system of some kind in order to truly flourish as human beings.

This is never more true than when divorced dads are trying to deal with a cataclysmic shift in their lives, such as divorce.

The post-divorce life is a significant adjustment for divorced dads and their children, especially when it comes to dating.

DadsDivorce.com editor Matt Allen talked with nationally recognized divorce and relationship expert Nancy Fagan about post-divorce dating and how to handle introducing your new girlfriend to your children.

Fagan provides divorce planning and mediation services for men and women as the owner of The Divorce Help Clinic and has appeared on countless radio and television shows.

She offers advice on how and when to talk to your children about a new relationship and how your children's ages influence those decisions.

By Lisa S. Brown

Board Certified Counselor

When it comes to seeking help or obtaining professional counseling services it seems that divorced dads have a more difficult time doing so then women.

It is obvious of course to why this is, as so many men were socialized as children to believe that crying or showing emotion was feminine or worse yet, weak.

"Crying is for babies" or "be a man" are terms that have been coined in many households.

Unfortunately as a society men are expected to be tough and immune to emotion. The reality is that men have feelings just as women do, and they should be encouraged to deal with the pain and wide array of emotions that accompany divorce.