Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

Question:

My parenting time question deals with the amount of travel I am doing for child custody exchanges.

My divorce decree does not address transportation and who travels how far when exchanging the children. My children live far from me, but I still make the long drive every weekend to see them.

This significantly cuts into my parenting time - I don't count sitting in the car as quality time - and my travel and gas expenses are enormous while my ex-wife stays put and doesn't pay for anything.

Is there anything I can do to modify the child custody agreement or input language into our divorce decree that discusses how to handle parenting time pick ups and drop offs?

Question:

I am finishing up my military duties and am looking to adjust my child support.

Once I leave the military, I will be returning to school full time in order to finish my college education.

How do I go about modifying child support to reflect my new situation of being out of the military and a full-time student?

Question:

I was unable to attend the temporary hearing where my wife and her divorce lawyer misrepresented my financial information for alimony and child support.

As a result, my temporary orders for alimony and child support payments are 75% of my monthly net income.

Can I appeal this decision and modify the temporary orders?

Question:

I modified visitation a few years ago so that it was changed to an extended parenting time schedule. 

When it was modified there was a special clause in the original decree that did not get included in the updated, modified order.

I was told by my attorney at that time that it was still in effect, but my ex is now telling me that her attorney says it is not in effect because it is not included in the most recent modification.

Who is correct?

By Daniel Exner

Divorce Lawyer, Cordell & Cordell

If your state does not have a time limit on how long alimony lasts and are wanting to retire, you should file a motion to modify immediately. 

This is because, depending on the court, there may be an issue with the reduction of income as your retirement may be viewed as voluntary and unreasonable, thus amounting to "shirking."

Before the court grants the modification, however, it will assess whether your retirement amounts to shirking.