Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

Question:

I am active duty military who worked very hard for many years to secure 50/50 joint custody with my two children. I still pay child support. In two years, I will be forced to retire from the military because to accept another assignment would mean forfeiture of my 50/50 custody. This would constitute an "involuntary" retirement because staying on active duty would be very beneficial for both my career and my children. Because I will have leave the military, I will need to return to school to find a place in the civilian work force.

Will the judge assigned to our case see my involuntary retirement from the military as "shirking" or can the judge actually "force" me to stay on active duty and involuntarily give up my 50/50 custody, stating that it is somehow irresponsible to change the financial dynamics?

Question:

My wife just left me and filed for separation while I was deployed overseas by the military. She moved herself and the kids to another state about six hours away, and she now wants me to drive halfway to meet her for visitation. I thought that I had read somewhere that she would have to provide the transportation for the visits because she took the kids and moved to out of state. Is this the law or did my brain make this up? How should I go about dealing with this?

Question:

I am not currently receiving military disability but it is at the board awaiting final approval. When filling out the divorce papers, my spouse asked me about my disability payments from the military. Do I have to legally disclose this amount when a decision is reached as I was told that I do not have to tell anyone what it is?

Question:

According to my husband and his ex-wife's divorce decree, she is awarded a set dollar amount for child support instead of a percentage of his earnings. Well he just got a new job with a higher income and now she says her lawyer is drawing up papers in order to get a full 20% of his net income, and that if he refuses to sign them she will take him to court.

However, my husband is in the military and being deployed overseas very soon. Are we legally obligated to do anything with this paperwork before he gets deployed, and if so, is there any way to postpone it until he gets back?

Question:

I am in the military and am paying child support to my ex-wife. She has remarried another military man. Can I pay less money for child support because my ex-wife and the children’s stepfather claim the children in the Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System (DEERS), cover the children under Tricare, and receive Basic Allowance for Housing (BAH) with a dependent rate because of the children?

I know it's not the obligation of the stepfather to provide for them but if the government is paying him BAH for my children isn't he technically taking responsibility for them?