I am active duty military who worked very hard for many years to secure 50/50 joint custody with my two children. I still pay child support. In two years, I will be forced to retire from the military because to accept another assignment would mean forfeiture of my 50/50 custody. This would constitute an "involuntary" retirement because staying on active duty would be very beneficial for both my career and my children. Because I will have leave the military, I will need to return to school to find a place in the civilian work force.
Will the judge assigned to our case see my involuntary retirement from the military as "shirking" or can the judge actually "force" me to stay on active duty and involuntarily give up my 50/50 custody, stating that it is somehow irresponsible to change the financial dynamics?