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The domestic violence charges against me were dropped. Why was nothing done to my ex (at the time STBX ) for her false domestic violence charge?

My wife and I have been separated for almost three years. During the custody battle, my wife wrongfully accused me of abuse in order to get full custody of or 3 children. She has tried to prove her case in 3 different courts(Long Island, Queens and Brooklyn). All of them were thrown out since there was no evidence - only accusations. This process took an awfully long time as we were trying to get a final custody order. My wife refused to sign the final order unless I agreed to a voluntary order of protection without admitting any guilt on my part. My lawyer advised me to sign just so we could go on and so I did. At this point, however, it is increasingly more difficult for me to arrange any kind of communication with my children. She often turns off their cell phone (which I pay for) and constantly passes angry messages though my children. My 10 yr old son is usually the one that gets involved and he is very uneasy with this role. I have no way to communicate with her or her family and that's very frustrating when, for eaxmple, I am stuck in traffic and might be late for pick up (public place) or need to get my son involved in conversations that are not pleasant . Therefore, I would like lift this order.What arguments are valid in lfting such an order?