Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

Question:

My soon-to-be-ex wants the kids to continue going to daycare even though I am willing and able to watch after them.

Since we are still married and there is no custody order in place, is it OK for me to make the decision to refuse to take them there and pay for daycare? Shouldn't I have right of first refusal?

If she does take them to child care without my permission can I call the police for kidnapping or something else?

Question:

I am going to court on contempt because I am refusing to pay for daycare costs. The reason is I do not feel my children are safe at the daycare provider my ex wife picked. Will I still be forced to pay or do I have any say in the provider she chooses?

Among the Ask a Divorce Lawyer questions answered today by Cordell & Cordell attorneys:

• Do I still have to appear in court if I want to cancel a modification request?
• My ex is scheduled to deploy and offered me a family care plan giving part of her parenting time to a "designated person" while she is away. Can she do that?
• Do I have to pay for part of the her daycare expenses?

Among the Ask a Divorce Lawyer questions answered today by Cordell & Cordell attorneys:

• If I never turned in our marriage certificate to the clerk, am I still legally married?
• I've been making the mortgage payments during the divorce process so is the home mine during this time?
• Can I request the kids be taken out of daycare if they're old enough? Why do I pay for that and child support?
• Do I have to pay half of our child's counseling fees if there is no court order and my ex set it up without input from me?
• My child's mother is moving states and leaving my child to live with a friend. I'll still be paying child support. Shouldn't she have to pay as well since she's leaving the child or can I have more obligation reduced?
• My ex has a court order to refinance the mortgage, but has already been denied once. What happens if she can't refinance?
• My ex is paid off but I still owe the state a lot of money, the majority of which is surcharges that will keep piling up. Do I have any options?

Among the Ask a Dads Divorce Lawyer questions answered today by Cordell & Cordell attorneys:

• Support was based on our daycare expenses but my ex has since taken the kids out of daycare. What can I do?
• How can the courts say I still have to pay child support when I don't have any income?