Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

Question:

My marriage separation advice question concerns how to treat a break up of the marriage without filing for divorce.

My wife essentially broke up with me, but we are still married and neither of us wants to file for divorce because of the time and money it would cost.

So how would our break up be treated in the eyes of the law if we are still legally married? Is the break up treated the same way is we were merely dating?

Question:

In my child support review, the percentages on the child support worksheet indicate I should be paying 70% of child care costs while my wife covers 30%.

However, my divorce decree says we should split child care costs "equally" in the event my ex-wife needs to use child care, which she is indicating she may have to if she gets a full-time job.

Will child care be included in the worksheet to determine child support guidelines? If so, should the judge abide by our agreement and leave the child care off the worksheet or is there a chance the judge may disregard our previous agreement?

By Corrine Bylund

Holidays are stressful.  Planning early can help ensure that everyone can continue to have memorable happy holidays, even in the midst of litigation.

First, some dos and don’ts for the holiday season:

• Do make the best of your time with your child.  Just because you might not have the exact date or hour that you wanted, doesn’t make your time with your child any less special. 

• Do encourage your child to enjoy the time they spend with your spouse or former spouse.  Your child will likely be upset that they aren’t spending time with both you and your spouse during the holidays.  Make separate holidays easier by letting your child know that it’s okay with you that they have a good time with their other parent. 

• Don’t disparage your spouse or your spouse’s family in front of your child.