“Divorce mediation?” “What’s that?”. Five years ago many people considering a divorce or having post-divorce conflicts would have responded in just that way. Now, people commonly seek out and may be mandated by the courts to participate in mediation. Likewise, finding a mediator just requires a flip through your local phone directory or a quick internet search. Steering distressed couples and families toward working out their issues in mediation versus the traditional adversarial process reflects the wisdom and experience of the courts and legislature. The collaborative process of mediation eliminates much of the financial and emotional costs of the adversarial process of a traditional divorce. Mediation, on the other hand, allows the parties to enjoy more control over the situation to the benefit of themselves, their families and their futures.