By Tamara Hoffstatter
We all hear that in divorce we need to "leave the children out of it” and "don’t get them involved."
We are also advised to come together as parents when addressing the reality of divorce and talk with the children together, to explain what is going on, and how it doesn’t mean that the child is not loved.
After divorce, when parents are no longer able to be with their children all of the time, it is even more difficult to hold one’s tongue when one parent realizes that the other parent is not doing things "exactly the way I would" during parenting time.
Jealousies arise when children return home from parenting time and they are excited about the fun they had. Concerns are created when one parent meets a new love interest and introduces that person into the child’s life.
Parents either purposely or inadvertently make children feel guilty, telling them how lonely they are or how much they miss them when they are gone. The possibilities are endless.