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By JoAnne C. Holt,  Divorce financial analyst

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You survive the first divorce with about half of what you previously owned and swear you will never get married again. Then a few years go by and you’ve met another woman and have overcome the bitter taste of your last divorce.

Your heart is swept away and you have decided to get married again, but you are smarter now and will get your new spouse to sign a pre-nuptial (or ante-nuptial) agreement. Let’s assume both of you hire attorneys and both of you sign the agreement right before you are married.

Remember, your pre-nuptial agreement is only as good as your compliance with it. There are also other considerations to be aware of if you want it to be enforceable.

By JoAnne C. Holt,  Divorce financial analyst

Send me an e-mail or visit my website holtcpafirm.com.

I'm sounding off in this article so men listen up! A chronic, financially dependent spouse is not created in a vacuum without your participation!

If you find yourself ending a marriage after years of begging your spouse to stop recklessly spending only to be met with deaf ears, you are not alone.

But let’s look into the marriage and determine why this happened, how to mitigate this problem and what to do if you have reached your last straw.

By JoAnne C. Holt,  Divorce financial analyst

Financial professionals working with family law cases deal with exaggerated emotions from their clients and it presents unique demands for the financial professional.

As a criminal law attorney once told me, “criminal law involves dealing with bad people on their best behavior and family law involves dealing with good people on their worst behavior.” This is very true.

The job of a financial professional often requires us to take our clients’ irrational positions, feelings and goals and redirect them into a rational thought process with a factual reality of what will be expected from them to achieve a productive outcome.

By JoAnne C. Holt,  Divorce financial analyst

A rehabilitation plan may be the best solution for you if you are paying maintenance to a spouse who hasn’t worked in quite a while but has the ability to earn a good living.

This is a serious consideration for short-term or moderate-term marriages where permanent divorce alimony is less likely to occur and the financial well being of the spouse is critical for the children to have a stable home.

It is also important in long-term marriages to provide additional resources and opportunities to the alimony recipient spouse in case the payor can no longer pay.

By JoAnne C. Holt,  Divorce financial analyst

So you have filed for divorce and one of the first things you will discuss with your attorney, after parenting, are the financial issues involved. 

In order to get through this overwhelming aspect of divorce it is imperative to break this down into steps.