Divorce Advice for Men | Fathers Rights Divorce | Child Custody

Question:

I am ordered to make monthly alimony payments to my ex-wife per our divorce decree.

We both owe a mutual debt to the IRS. However, I do not have enough money to afford this payment. 

May I withhold alimony payments from my ex-wife and use that money to pay off our IRS obligation?

Question:

For several years, my income tax return was sent directly to my state's department of child support. I have proof from the IRS of these payments.

However, my ex-wife never received the money and it was not credited toward my child support arrearage because the money was misused or lost by my state's child support division.

What can I do to fix this mistake?

Question:

In our divorce decree, it is stipulated that whichever party is able to maximize the tax benefit for our dependent son would be able to claim him for tax purposes.

But that is only applicable in the years that I pay at least 51% of his college tuition. This year I did not pay 51% so my wife says she gets to claim him, but the tax benefits would be greater if I claimed him this year.

Who is right in this situation?

Question:

I have been divorced for over two years. I recently received notice from the IRS that I owed additional taxes on a 403b that I was court ordered to distribute to my ex wife. Since it was only in my name, I only received notice on the back tax owed. Total due was $10,000.

When I withdrew it to give it to her, I ordered most of it to go to federal withholding. She got the balance. Now I owe taxes on the money they gave her. Since nothing was in her name do I have any recourse?