By Allison Pescosolido, M.A.
Founder, Divorce Detox®
Recently, Bethany Frankel revealed how troublesome her divorce has been on "Good Day New York," describing it as "brutal" and "excruciating." On "The View," Jane Seymour said of her divorce, "Obviously, it’s really quite devastating."
And we saw the finality of Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries’ 536-day divorce (TMZ notes that their marriage lasted only 72 days, to put things into perspective).
Divorce is perhaps the greatest challenge that you will ever go through. It effects every area of your life: your family, finances, friends and community, health, and so much more.
What most people fail to realize is that so much of the suffering related to divorce is optional.
It can be avoided with proper guidance, that's what we do here at the Divorce Detox center. With coaching and practice, divorce can be an opportunity to reframe your life in ways you never thought possible when you first became married.
Going through divorce, you have a choice to either experience pain that can affect your physical and mental health, or you can have have growing pains that yield wisdom and personal growth. It is your choice.
Many people feel a sense of failure and suffer from fear and anxiety while others. For the vast majority of people going through divorce, fear of being alone for extended periods of time or losing the ability to spend time with their children top the list of added stressors.
Divorcees often suffer from lack of sleep, a desire to eat too much or too little, and depression. However, AARP reports that three out of every four baby boomers that divorce believe they made the right decision to end their marriage.
Divorce can be an instrument of change. As an adult, there is not other aspect of life that will have as great an impact as divorce.
It is in change that one can find the silver lining of divorce. Through divorce, you can reframe every aspect of your life. With divorce recovery coaching, you have the ability to restart your life fresh and move beyond the heartbreak of separation.
One of the best things you can do for yourself as you divorce is invest in the future you. Divorce Detox can help you bridge the gap from the legal issues that lawyers will handle to sorting out parenting issues, child custody, finances and organizing your new home.
There are plenty of ways to jump start your life as you move through divorce. Everyone will go through stages at their own pace, but a divorce coach can help you move through your emotions as well as life’s obstacles in a way that expedites your recovery.
Few people have the skills and knowledge to create healthy boundaries for themselves when they are under emotional stress and anxiety. We can provide you with the skills and power that will restructure your thinking about divorce, your ex, and your future.
For most people going through divorce, the future feels ephemeral and uncertain. With the bedrock of the life you created fractured, it’s difficult to see a healthy you through the emotional pain.
However, there is a healthy life beyond divorce if you choose to find it. This life takes work, strength and resolve but it can be accomplished. Rather than being devastated by divorce use it as an instrument of change.
Reframe your life.
Allison Pescosolido, M.A., a founder of Divorce Detox®, is a relationship coach with a Masters in Psychology. Allison has helped thousands of men and women transform their lives through major life transitions. She is frequently featured in the media (New York Times, CNN, Fox) for her expertise on the subjects of relationships, breakups, marriage, divorce, dating and her unique treatment approach for divorce recovery. Her success in helping clients quickly identify, manage and overcome the specific challenges in relationships and divorce has led her to become the nation’s leading relationship expert. Whether single, married or divorced, you have the opportunity to learn valuable skills to restart your life.
Allison is proactively challenging and changing the stigma of divorce and relationships on a national level. She is dedicated to utilizing divorce and relationships as an opportunity for personal growth and a renewed life. The Divorce Detox proprietary programs transcend more traditional forms of treatment resulting in rehabilitating the spirit and increasing overall well-being in every aspect of life. Based in Los Angeles, California, Allison Pescosolido, M.A. offers relationship support (in person, by telephone and online) for anyone going through separation, divorce, a marriage crisis or relationship and dating issues.