When people find out you're in the midst of a divorce, suddenly everyone has some advice on divorce or a story to share on what you should do.
However well-intentioned your friends and family's legal advice on divorce is, they are usually misinformed. Lest they confuse you, here is the truth to those rumors you've heard.
Watch Cordell & Cordell attorney Jennifer Paine explain to DadsDivorce.com editor Matt Allen the three most common divorce myths:
- Nice Guys Finish Last
- You Can Get Him For Abandonment
- She Will Get Half Of Everything
Why? Because the opponent isn't going to allow you to look like a nice guy -- even if you are, especially if you are. You will be smeared and defamed and your own divorce lawyer will probably allow that to happen because that pumps up fees for both sets of divorce lawyers.
It is naive to the extent of blatant falsity for a divorce lawyer to suggest that a court is going to take the time to figure out who is nice and who is not.
Courts don't want to deal with that issue.
Being nice means that you will be taken advantage of by (a) your divorcing spouse and (b) her divorce lawyer and (c) your own divorce lawyer and (d) anyone else in the divorce industry who you will be funding.
You can be nice or not nice. It won't matter.