Question: My ex-wife and mother-in-law were allowed into my house by our 12-year-old daughter while I was out of the house. Without my consent, furniture was moved from her room. How do you suggest I deal with this situation?
Answer: I would speak with your ex-wife and explain that it was inappropriate (outside of an emergency) to enter your home without your consent. If she indicates that she will comply, problem solved. If she is belligerent, I would inform her in writing that she is not welcome on your property. If she refuses to stay off your property I would contact the authorities regarding her trespass. If your ex-wife actually took furniture from your home I would request that it be returned in short order. Let her know that the authorities will be called if the furniture is not returned.
Obviously another option would be to inform your daughter that it was inappropriate to allow anyone into your home, including her mother and grandmother, without you being present or your direct approval. It believe having that conversation would depend upon the maturity and emotional state of your daughter.
Spencer E. Williams is the Team Leader over St Louis, St Charles, Indianapolis and Arnold (Jefferson County, MO) offices of Cordell & Cordell, P.C. where he practices exclusively in the area of domestic relations. Mr. Williams has tried numerous cases dealing with complex custody issues, maintenance, business assets and personal asset division.