Why do lawyers act as free agents in a divorce taking clients money and not his wishes first? Who should have the final word on what should be done, within the law, on his behalf?
Generally your counsel works for you. You are the one who makes decisions in your case. However, it is your attorneys' job to let you know options and to make strategic decisions based on experience and knowledge of the law. Ultimately though it is your life and your case, you should be in an attorney client relationship that you feel comfortable with making joint decisions after considering all options.