I recently built a new home with my ex-wife to be and we currently owe $155,000.00 or less. The home was appraised for over $250,000.00 six months ago. All furniture and appliances are paid for and still in mint condition. My question is if I allow her to keep everything but my clothes and my vehicle(she has a vehicle also) after committing adultery will still likely be responsible for spousal support and the same amount of child support? Also we signed papers agreeing to 7 & 7 custody on my first week I was stopped by local authorities and my vehicle was searched and towed due to no proof of insurance. I was not charged with anything, however; she has supposedly had custody changed so that i only get supervised visitation. She and her mother are attempting to convince local authorities that I am a drug dealer and they (my previous in-laws) make over one million dollars a year so they are listened to. I am not worried about getting into any trouble because the are false accusations, but I am concerned about her changing custody agreement. I know she is working for her mother and I am sure that they will try to say she makes very little money. Any suggestions? I was trying not to fight about anything and just use one lawyer but I am getting the bad end of the deal. Is adultery worth me attempting to prove? Should I just accept I have no chance of coming out with my clothes?