State:Oregon
Question:My brother is going through a separation with his wife of 9 years.  A couple of weeks ago he walked in on his wife with another man in bed.  When he found them he lost it but didn't touch anyone.  At the time that he found them I was watching their two daughters.  He returned and told me what had happened and called his wife to come pick up the children.   

After she picked up the girls she took them to a new home that she had been arranging  while my brother was not around.  My brother has continually asked her for the address while on the phone and she always says that she will not tell him.He went to the police and they said that they couldn't do anything about it as long as she doesn't leave the state and she would tell her the same thing if he took the kids to a hidden home.  Already worried about the kids mental wellness he does not want to futher damage them by putting them through a situation like that.

I think his wife is trying to set him up for a big fall since she has called the police on him three times and in each case the police have done nothing.  She is trying to claim that he has a history of physical abuse and yet there is not record to back her claim.  He lost his job a while back and is in the process of having his house foreclosed due to a poor loan structure like so many other people face today.  His wife is Japanese and in my opinion she is mentally abusing my brother and their kids.  My brother has vertually zero dollars and doesn't know what to do.  I am worried about him and don't know what to tell him.  I was hoping you may have some advice on how to protect himself and his kids while living in financial ruins.  Is there any legal form to file that he should file, aside from divorce papers?  How can he get legal advice with no money?  Is there any non-profit legal hotline that he could talk to?  Anything would help.

Answer: He needs to find a way to file for divorce to keep her from leaving the state and country with the children.  He must do this.  There are very few free legal services and none that I know of for his situation.  However I can tell you that she has something planned out based upon her actions taken so far.  The longer he is away from his children the worse his case gets.  He needs to take immediate action.

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