By Sarah Merry
Cordell & Cordell Divorce Lawyer
There is a terrible rumor that when a couple decides to divorce or separate, one party must immediately leave the house.
In more cases than not, the husband leaves the house to move into a dinky apartment while his wife and children remain in the home. In many of the remaining cases, the wife takes the children and flees the home, leaving the husband in the dust and away from his kids.
Due to ever so prevalent gender biases, a woman who leaves the home or takes the children and leaves the home is assumed to be “protecting” herself or the children; there is an assumption that her husband is an abuser or an alcoholic.
A man who leaves the home, conversely, is labeled a kidnapper or someone who abandoned his family.
Due to these unfortunate gender biases it is generally a good idea to remain in the home until there is an agreement or court order that states otherwise, even if there are no children of the marriage.