By Allison Pescosolido, M.A.
Founder, Divorce Detox®
Dating often feels like a great and insurmountable weight, especially when you were married for most of your adult life.
Time and again, men make the mistake of setting lofty goals for a first date: Could this be the one? Will she be the mother of my children?
When the goal of every date you go on is to find a long-term relationship, you are setting yourself up for failure.
Divorce is hard enough. Instead, set yourself up for dating success from the get go. Be realistic, finding the woman of your dreams is a process. Dating is just the first step.
Chances are you will have to date more than a few women before finding the person you truly want to be with. So change the goal of your dating. Rather than looking for a long-term relationship – far afield in the future – stay present and simply look to make a connection with a woman that may lead to something more meaningful.
The following five tips will help you stay in the moment, make stronger connections, and raise your overall satisfaction with dating.